😍 How To Train Your Partner To Be A Perfect Lover
Desires change? Stop awkward sex talks and master the ONE specific way to voice your needs to prevent misunderstandings. Ask & receive to ignite passion.
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Hey Love Muffin,
Once at a Tantric lovemaking workshop, Tim and I participated in a delightful exercise.
We sat cross-legged, face-to-face, touching palms, and raised our arms in a circle to create a “sacred container of love.”
Then, we figuratively threw out things hindering our lovemaking and called in things we desired to be present that day.
It was a sweet way to connect, align, and explore our desires and fears.
We filled our love bubble with love, appreciation, willingness to be present, spaciousness, and time to savor a leisurely moment.
We released concerns about body image (mine), time pressures, and any hidden agendas.
Then, we exchanged gifts. I offered him my willingness to explore something new of his choosing.
He gave me a "magic mirror" so I could clearly see how beautiful I was in his eyes. That was a deeply touching moment I'll never forget.
That workshop exercise marked the beginning of our ability to openly share our boundaries and desires. It unlocked a whole new level of intimacy for us.
The key, we discovered, was in communicating our needs. One of the best ways to cultivate more turn-on and increase comfort in your sex life is to establish honest communication with your lover.
With practice, it gets easier, and the honesty and defined boundaries actually make sex hotter.
Being able to express your sexual desires and establish necessary boundaries allows both partners to relax and enjoy intimacy within the comfort zone of those needs each time.
Another way to have more sex, more often, is to learn how to run your partner a menu of small offers. The ebook I’m giving you at the bottom of this newsletter may be the single most valuable sex advice you’ve ever gotten!
Women's hormonal fluctuations can lead to wide-ranging desires.
One day she might crave cuddles, the next lingerie and high heels, and another she might yearn for a passionate encounter (after being properly aroused, of course!).
Men's libido is also influenced by external factors; some days they're more tired, others more aroused.
When you openly share your desires each time you're intimate, the variations in what you crave add excitement to your lovemaking.
Too often, we hesitate to ask for what we need, but with practice, it becomes easy and fun.
Open yourself to more pleasure by communicating your boundaries.
If you don't tell him what you're in the mood for, how can he truly pleasure you?
Before getting intimate, pause and consider what would bring you the most joy.
Do your breasts long for touch? Do you need snuggles and hugs? Are you feeling sore?
Do you want to invite your girlfriend for a sexy threesome? What are your desires? What are your boundaries?
Reduce guilt and increase enjoyment by establishing agreements before making love. If you're truly not in the mood, perhaps you can snuggle up and watch TV while taking turns giving each other massages in the areas you desire most.
As we mature, our tastes evolve, our needs are met, and new desires emerge.
By tuning into ourselves, we discover that we want different rules as we go. Remaining flexible about each lover's needs on a daily basis allows us to provide the kind of pleasure they desire at the moment.
Write everything in the sand, and check in frequently to ensure that your agreements still serve you as a couple or group.
Just as you might want cuddles today and wild sex tomorrow, or pursue a lover now but move on in a month, grant yourself the freedom to express your desires to your loved ones in every moment.
Your tastes and desires ebb and flow with your energy and life experiences.
Being comfortable enough to share your ever-changing needs with your lover will allow your sex life to blossom and prevent misunderstandings.
But where do you start with this kind of open communication? How do you move past that initial awkwardness and truly learn to ask for what you want in a way that feels good for both of you?
That's why I want to give you a free resource that can help: More Sex More Often, by my mentor Dr. Patti Taylor.
This special report, an excerpt from Seduce Her Tonight: Sex Life Strategies for Getting to YES!, focuses on the surprisingly powerful technique of making small offers.
It teaches you how to use small, easily accepted suggestions to build a string of yeses, creating a positive and playful environment that leads to more frequent and fulfilling intimacy.
It’s a taste of the wisdom found in Dr. Patti’s Seduction Trilogy (3 audiobooks & 3 ebooks), which includes Be Her Sexual Trainer with a video about the six ways to train your partner.
Because you are always training each other, why not do it comprehensively and unambiguously? The better your communication about your desires, the more they are mutually satisfied.
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Say Yes Everytime,
Suz
Thank you!! Great tips, def needed this!